Wednesday, February 17, 2010

This post was in the pipeline for far too long

One of the first questions my friends at uni asked me when I joined was "So do you want to go abroad?". My answer usually is a no, unless I'm feeling particularly cynical. The reason is twofold: I hate the cold, and my skinny ass cannot take a cold shower on a warm April morning. The second is a sort of sense of duty, I guess.

The German adolescents after World War II blamed their parents for looking on silently while Hitler massacred 6 million innocents. Most segments of my own generation seem to feel the same towards our own parents, and how an unacceptable amount of bloodshed occurred under their watch. The parents have their typical Sri Lankan parent attitude about these kinds of questions, and avoid talking about these things as much as possible. They even have the nerve to talk about how good things were during our grandparents time! :/

But growing up, and slowly becoming aware of the real mechanics behind this illusion known as the Sri Lankan 'republic' and our supposedly 'democratic' society, we have to come to a conclusion that we always dreaded: We, and our parents before us, were pretty helpless. Nobody likes to accept that their parents were helpless. There's nothing in the world that Ammi and Thathi can't fix. But there is.

And I digress, as I always do. The ship has been wreaked under our 'rents watch. It is taking in water. But there's a lot of cargo in there to salvage, too numerous to be carried to safety. You face the great decision: Do you save what you can, abandon ship, and swim to certain safety? Or do you attempt what many would consider impossible, and try to repair the ship and save all the cargo? Do you escape with your memories of paradise, your photos, your mementoes? Or do you try to save paradise itself?

Edit: Of course there are a few wise/crazy fellows who jump into the stormy sea and swim to land, get resources from there, and leave the safety of said land and come back to repair the ship. Those are a truly brave/insane bunch, risking the lives they've built up and everything they have to save a sinking ship.

Please Note: I hope nobody takes this post the wrong way. This was not meant as an attack on people who may have chosen the first path. I have many good friends and people I love dearly who have chosen that path, and I still love them dearly and respect their choice. I am merely trying to justify insanity, the attempts of some many to swim against the hard current. I hope you, the reader, understands this...

:)

22 comments:

  1. Good post. I guess I sort of understand but there's only so much a single person can do and there's only so much change a single person can bring about :)

    And how dare you accuse me for not trying to save the country?! HOW DARE YOU?!?
    I keel you!!!!!!!!

    :D

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  2. Sabby - True, true! :) Like I said in the post, we're pretty helpless when it comes to choosing which direction the ship is sailing... ;)

    Ahahaha, I KEEL you too! Jumping into the sea without even a lifejacket like that! Are you crazy?! ;) lol :D

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  3. I've always wanted to live here... I still do; everywhere else I'll be 'second class'. But whats sad is that the way things are going in SL, the majority of us will be just that, second class to the elite and their two bit thugs....

    Now when a big wig goes by I'm expected to pull over, make way, perhaps stop and wait till he does... I dare not get into an argument, lord knows what the other chap will pull out - a knife, a gun, a gang of thugs, all because though I might be right I don't have the might to back it up?

    So yeah, I still want to live here, but dare?

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  4. Chavie, I totally get you.

    Going by the same metaphor, I would say it is a must for the young sailor boys to acquire the skills that need to fix the ship – on land or onboard another ship. The ship needs not a quick-fix, but a smarter, better solution – an overhaul.

    In other words, the quality/proficiency of employees in any country would directly relate to the educational system. When the latter is of such degenerated level, there is no hope in hell that we would be producing a world-class, skilled employees to work smarter and turn things around. We know how difficult it is to compete in the non-traditional industries at a global level as Sri Lankans. Our education does not cater to many demands of this day and age.

    It would take two more generations before we could see a change. You and I belong to the transitionary generation, your job one day would be to hire the best skills to run the boat when you are the captain, old and grey.

    That’s what I think. ;-)

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  5. The damage is not irrecoverable... This is a damn big ship..

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  6. Good post. I totally get you.

    I have one question - can you really, truly "live" in a foreign country?

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  7. Chavie, really good post. A question that's on most our minds lately isn't it? It's certainly on mine. But then in the end, sinking or not, it's OUR ship, ya?

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  8. Good post kiddo. A word about the crazy folks; you'd be surprised at how many would love to swim back to the Mother ship. Some of them try, but a lot of the sailors who've never left don't want their help. These returning sailors are skilled enough to help overhaul the entire ship, and yet they're made to scrub the decks...all 'cos they "deserted the ship".

    OK analogy overload, but my point is...the only thing holding our wonderful country back is the selfish pride of her people.

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  9. Sigma - Exactly man, nobody wants to live here as second class citizens, we all want to live dignified and safe lives, but WE have to make that happen, don't we? It's not going to happen overnight, like SI points out, but we need to atleast try... :)

    Serendib - Exactly. Giving the skilled guy his due place is a trait yet to be acquired by Sri Lankan society, but the way I see it, it's already happening in the business world, and sooner or later the people in power will realise which way the world is turning and act accordingly.

    The education sector is one of the biggest screw-ups this country made, from having some of the best Unis and Graduates in all of the world at the beginning, and then gradually getting to the point where we have to send our kids to Bangladesh to get their medical degrees. Our thinking about education is so backward, so it's hard to expect good forward-looking graduates from the system. But here again I see little stories of hope, for example in our IT graduates.

    Kirigalpoththa - As you've shown us, exploring every nook and corner of the cargo compartment! :)

    Papare Boy - I wouldn't know, but what about kids born and living there their entire lives? Would they ever consider Sri Lanka their home?

    Book Baker - Exactly, and if we don't save it, who will? :)

    Crystal Flame - Hahaha! :D

    PseudoRandom - Yep, agree with you wholly on all your points, especially the selfish pride bit... But the truth is, it's hard for anyone to really get down to repairing the damage, be they returning or having-lived-here-their-entire-lives. Especially in the state sector, jobs or promotions aren't given based on merit, but based on 'connections' and how much you donated for their last election campaign, etc.

    But when it comes to most other things, you can get stuff done if you've got a Sri Lankan citizenship...

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  10. True true,
    hot water yes but for how long?

    Home is where everything is.

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  11. very good post nad i feel your confusion. there are also many dimensions to this - people move abroad for many reason including to explore and experience different cultures. i think it is very healthy to get a dose of "foreign exposure" - people move, fall in love, want what they can't get and always crave for something better and this is the foundation of a great society - the inherent desire for something better..

    This reminds me of on of my favourite poems by Gary Larson (the Far Side cartoonist)called cow poetry

    Distant Hills
    FROM THE FAR SIDE
    By Gary Larson

    The distant hills call to me.
    Their rolling waves seduce my heart.
    Oh, how I want to graze in their lush valleys.
    Oh, how I want to run down their green slopes.
    Alas, I cannot.
    Damn the electric fence!
    Damn the electric fence!

    see the cartoon at http://rinabeana.com/poemoftheday/index.php/category/gary-larson/

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  12. My hats off to you Chavie. We in our family felt the same way and are so happy that we came back. Good luck in what ever way you choose to repair this ship. Every little hand counts!

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  13. Interesting view, Chav. It seems to me that each generation (generally) tends to 'blame' the preceding one for the negatives they have inherited. However, history should reveal that each era had its own 'fighters against the system' and if they didn't succeed they were 'selected out' - just as they are today. And remember, your generation is the one that should be getting ready "to repair the ship"...

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  14. Good post. I'm sure there are a lot of people right now trying to make the tough choice between staying and going.

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  15. GG - Now there's a good question! ;)

    maf - I know what you mean... Wanderlust and the desire to be better are both good things, the way I see it. Thanks for that link, I enjoyed reading it! :D

    Sue - Thank you! "Every little hand counts"... So very true! :D

    Java - I guess you're right about every generation blaming the one before! :D And like Churchill said "History is written by the victors", so the few who managed to actually change the system, the MLKs and the Gandhis tend to be remembered, while the unsuccessful are often swept underneath the carpet. But it'll be much better to have tried to change things and lost than to have never tried at all! :D

    TKRP - Thanks! :D

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  16. A topic that make me a little sad...

    I don't subscribe to the view that one should blindly love their country no matter what but I DO love pretty much everything about Sri Lanka (with the obvious exceptions that shall remain unnamed).

    What makes me sad is the fact that I have never felt any more accepted in SL than I have in other countries. I have always felt like a bit of an outsider...

    I get asked "where are you from?" roughly the same number of times regardless of whether I'm traveling around Sri Lanka or a foreign country.

    A couple of people may (and often do) tell me that it's my fault for not adapting to the majority in SL (in terms of language and culture) but should I have to integrate into my OWN country?

    I am proud of my ancestry but that does not make me any less of a Sri Lankan.

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  17. Sean - One should not blindly love his country no matter what, but everyone deserves a country that he can love unconditionally... I believe there can be nothing that hurts a person more than to feel like he doesn't belong in his mother country.

    I don't think anyone needs to be integrated (or assimilated) into the majority culture in the country to make them a Sri Lankan. This lack of acceptance (mostly among the majority) about the pluralism and diversity of our country is a major roadblock in the path to reconciliation, imho. I wonder if things have been like this for a very long time, or whether this is a recent development. I don't believe that things will change overnight, but in one, perhaps two generations the vast majority will accept this pluralism, and embrace it. Wherever our ancestors came from, there is something in common that unites all of us, and that is that we're people who live on this land, and love this land. I hope for the day that people realise that every Sri Lankan has equal rights to live in this country, no matter his cultural background or religion...

    :)

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  18. at the risk of sounding like a bumbling idiot and if sl blogs are anything to go by, you guys have a lot of heart and that matters :)

    a single grain of rice can tip the scale. each oarsmen is vital to guiding the longboat home. i believe in that wholeheartedly.

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  19. Losh - Hehe :D I'm glad you think that way, and this is my belief too. I hope that we can all help out and guide our little mothership through these troubled waters! :)

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  20. Really nice post chavie. I get where you're coming from. I'm afraid I've become cynical enough to wonder if one person can help make a difference, but I'd like to hope we can.

    My reasons for staying back are purely selfish - Simply because its home. I'd love to travel and see as much as I possibly can. But I hope I'll have the luxury of always coming back (I have no idea where I'll be within the next five years) to the dust, the pot holes, the sinhala slang and the crazy people.

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  21. Gutterflower - I agree with you there, there's nothing much a single person can do, but there's a lot a like-minded group of dedicated individuals can do... :)

    And you should travel, see the world. I guess it's only then that we really would value what we've got here... :D All the best to you and I hope you have fun, wherever your journey may take you! :D

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